Disappointments are divine appointments.
Mark 5:21-43 is an interesting text. It is two events rolled into one. The larger story of Jesus being called upon to heal Jairus' daughter is broken in the middle with the account of Jesus healing the woman with the flow of blood (5:25-34). The arrangement is not incidental. In this case, because of several links between the tales, it is apparent that in terms of actual historical events the two accounts happened in the order presented. It was not merely a literary decision that caused Mark to nest these two stories together.
In both accounts the role of faith is prominent. It is belief in Jesus' healing power that drives both to Jesus (Jairus, v 23; the woman, v 28). Both are told that faith is a decisive factor (Jairus, v 36; the woman, v 34). In both accounts, healing is forthcoming (Jairus' daughter was actually raised from the dead, v 41-42; the woman, v 29). In both accounts, the Greek verb sozo appears (Jairus, v 23, 'she will get well'; the woman, v 28, 'I will get well'; see also v 34). The common use of sozo frequently indicates the meaning of physical healing, with no spiritual subtext. However, this is also the verb used when spiritual salvation is the clear meaning (such as Romans 10:9, 13). Its use in this story is at the very least suggestive, that the reader is to find more than mere healing in response to faith in Christ.
Can you imagine what Jairus thought when he had finally found Jesus, persuaded Him to come, and had started on their way to his home, only to have the woman with the flow of blood delay them? In Jairus' mind, time was of the essence. His daughter was dying. He knew that Jesus could heal. He probably did not know that He could, or would, raise the dead. He had this one shot for his daughter who was at death's door.
We fast-forward the story, because we can read the whole thing in sixty seconds. We know how it is going to turn out. Jairus did not. There was no fast-forward for him. He experienced every agonizing second of the delay as Jesus scanned the crowd, looking for, . . . what? Someone who had touched Him? You're kidding! You are surrounded by a crowd, they're all touching you! Let's go, let's go, let's GO! My daughter is DYING!
But the delay stretched from seconds to minutes. Jesus finally finished dealing with the woman, and as He was ready to resume His (slow) progress toward Jairus home, a messenger appears. "Your daughter is dead." Freeze-frame here. Press Pause, not Fast Forward. You're Jairus. What do you do?
Probably dissolve into grief. What will you (or perhaps, did you?) do if and when you are confronted by such news? There is no fast-forward on grief! For all Jairus knew, it was over, finished. His daughter was dead. The messenger certainly thought it was over: "Don't trouble the teacher any longer." No need for a healer now. No, we need the undertaker, not a healer.
Jairus was crushed. We can see that fact in Jesus statement, "Do not be afraid." Can you imagine the if onlys that are coursing through Jairus' mind at this point. Probably the same ones in Martha's and Mary's minds in John 11:21 and 32: "If you had been here, my brother would not have died."
If only I had found Jesus sooner! If only that crowd had not been surrounding Him! If only that woman had not stopped Him! If only He had hurried!
There are many other interesting details in this double account, but I want to tease out just one application. Here is a simple lesson from this pericope: disappointments are divine appointments. Jairus was crushed with disappointment and grief at verse 35. What he did not know was that Jesus had a divine appointment with his daughter to glorify His heavenly Father by raising her from the dead. Even though you and I know that Jairus' grief lasted no longer than it took for them to walk to his house, Jairus did not know it at the time.
I want to suggest to you that for Christians, disappointments are in fact divine appointments. We know that God is sovereign (Daniel 4:35), that He is good (Psalm 119:68), and that He has committed to working all things together for our good (Romans 8:28). He is relentlessly forming us into the image of Christ (Romans 8:29, Philippians 1:6) by the events, and yes, the disappointments of our lives.
Jairus did not get to see Jesus heal his daughter. Instead, he got to see Him raise her from the dead! The divine appointments behind our disappointments will not always be so obvious, nor will they necessarily follow in such quick succession. They will not always be what we ourselves wanted or desired. They will often be accompanied by pain. They will often require a quiet, submissive heart. But they will always be there, and they will always be better than our desires, because these divine appointments will always bring glory to God. Disappointments are not pointless, nor are they random. They are divine appointments.
about where you are at age twenty. You are regularly making decisions, as a twenty-year old, represented by the long black dotted line. These decisions change the course of your life in ways you can not now see. Just a tiny decision that changes your life pattern (the blue dots) as a young person yields a huge change at the end of your life (red dots).